Do you fight? Do you choose which fights you fight or do they choose you? Consider water, it flows around rock, but in time, the rock will lose the battle.
We need to develop adaptability. It is a quality of our ancesteral past and the reason why we are a successful species. Fighting is taxing. Fighting is stressful. Fighting is sometimes mental and often physical.
That is not to mean that we should give in, roll over or submit. It is possible to fight without effort. To do this you need to be able to adjust. You need to flow.